Unchallenged the issues that caused this child to hide will haunt him... Statistically, 1 in four of you have probably experienced bullying at some point in your life, so you know what it feels like and want to stop it from happening in your workplace. My motivation is the same, and my experiences of bullying… Continue reading Complete disclosure….
Bullies and harassers GROOM meaning their behaviour can be stopped BEFORE it starts - come and find out why this is a gamechanger. Join us to learn how my webinars can bully-proof your workplace. Learn how to access the nearest thing you can get to a superpower at work! Join Zoom Meeting at 12 noon,… Continue reading Launch of bully-proofing in the workplace – free event at 12-noon on Wednesday 30th June.
he even used his job to terrify them. https://tinyurl.com/2p9y8mey #MI5abuser
In essence empowered workers protect their colleagues and the businesses they work for. The launch of bully-proofing in the workplace is today at 12-Noon. I will talk about what I teach and why it works! I will change the way you think about bullying & harassment. Please find the zoom below on which to join… Continue reading The most useful superpowers that can be given to workers.
No human beings were hurt during the making of this production Bullies want employers who give them Status, Power, and Opportunity. So they are particularly attracted to the Film and TV industry, Banking, Charity Sector, Faith Organisations, Politics, Police, Public Services, Army, and most unfortunately of all, the NHS, but you can meet them anywhere. You… Continue reading Bully-proof for life
Types of gaslighting - scapegoating and coercion. “There are four primary types of gaslighting behaviors: the straight-up lie, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion…” In part 1 “…we looked at the straight-up lie and reality manipulation.” In this, part 2, we are going, “to focus on scapegoating and coercion." Scapegoating The word scapegoating is defined by… Continue reading Gaslighting Behaviors: Part 2
What is gaslighting? It's a situation where deception is used to make its target doubt their own perception, like the attempt in yesterday's post to make a neighbour wonder if she was hearing things. Why do people gaslight? Gaslighting is about controlling about dominating someone, so yes, bullies gaslight. The term 'Gaslight' comes from the… Continue reading Can you smell gas?
(10 reasons to come to FREE Launch at 12-noon Wednesday 18th May) 6. Learn how to run all your relationships through a risk assessment before you trust them. That's what I teach - please come to the FREE launch on Wednesday 18th May at 12-noon to learn more Book here: https://tinyurl.com/25e86sde #bullyproof #bullyproofmembers #bullyproofworkers #bullyproofemployees #bullyproofworkplace… Continue reading How to run your own personal risk assessment on the people you let into your life.
I'd argue that deception is a way of life for a bully. Self-deception is how they convince themselves that their behaviour is acceptable. Lying is also a grooming method - how accepting is the potential target in terms of my reality? A BECTU member told me a story, that I wouldn't be surprised to hear,… Continue reading Let’s look at deception.
Usually, bullying doesn't involve just a bully and a target. Stella O’Malley writes in her book, Bully-Proof Kids about the importance of other roles in bullying. Usually, Bullies like status so audiences are important, that's what they get off on - audience approval or compliance. "Wingmen" are fans of the bully, but the most important role… Continue reading 10 reasons to attend FREE Launch 12-noon Wednesday 18th May 5. Becoming an upstander.
Illustration: Cara Rooney/The Guardian "Arm your kids with the right tools, and you’ll empower them against bullies – and stop them becoming one themselves" Joanna Moorhead Sat 19 Mar 2022 "What is bullying?It’s a sustained pattern of aggression by a person with more power, targeting someone with less power. The key, says Stella O’Malley, author… Continue reading How to bully-proof your kids for Life (10 reasons to attend FREE Launch 4.)
Manipulation is the practice of using indirect tactics to control behavior, emotions, and relationships. From goodtherapy.org WHAT IS MANIPULATION? Most people engage in periodic manipulation. For example, telling an acquaintance you feel “fine” when you are actually depressed is, technically, a form of manipulation because it controls your acquaintance’s perceptions of and reactions to you. Manipulation… Continue reading 10 reasons to attend FREE launch 12-noon Wednesday 18th May 3.Knowledge is power: from manipulation to gaslighting the bullies’ toolkit