Unchallenged the issues that caused this child to hide will haunt him... Statistically, 1 in four of you have probably experienced bullying at some point in your life, so you know what it feels like and want to stop it from happening in your workplace. My motivation is the same, and my experiences of bullying… Continue reading Complete disclosure….
Bullies and harassers GROOM meaning their behaviour can be stopped BEFORE it starts - come and find out why this is a gamechanger. Join us to learn how my webinars can bully-proof your workplace. Learn how to access the nearest thing you can get to a superpower at work! Join Zoom Meeting at 12 noon,… Continue reading Launch of bully-proofing in the workplace – free event at 12-noon on Wednesday 30th June.
Leiland-James Corkill with his birth mother Laura Corkill. Social workers tried to get the Laura to take responsibility for their mistakes! https://tinyurl.com/mtmv5kkz Baby Leiland-James Corkill was murdered by foster parent Laura Castle whom social workers saw as an appropriate adoptive parent for the child. What gets me is that Cumbria County Council social workers wrote… Continue reading I suspect that workload, groupthink and professional arrogance are somewhere at the heart of this:
"I don't understand because all I ever done was to love him." Escaping a violent relationship is complicated. Tricked into a relationship on the false premise that this new partner is wonderful, kind, supportive, what could possibly go wrong! Once they have their prize contained, the abuse begins; time and time again, women return to… Continue reading It’s complicated and the law doesn’t help!
Being a daddy's girl can affect the way you see women A male-identified woman is one, "who defends and protects problematic men and blames women for men's wrongdoings." I say "to a lesser extent" because I am aware of it and since my Greenham Common days constantly check myself for it, who's eyes am I… Continue reading To a lesser extent, I am a male-identified woman
Who is in control? "You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you. Coercive control is frequently driven by the fears of its perpetrators, and maintained by the fears of its victims. Perpetrators often fear losing what makes them stable or losing what they feel entitled to.… Continue reading Why do coercive controllers control?
Gaslighting so their target stops trusting themselves more than the controller! "Gaslighting generally works by making victims unable to trust their own perceptions and instincts, and they can become afraid to make decisions without help. Very often women's menstrual cycles will be used to underpin gaslighting tactics: I found to my dismay that Rohan had… Continue reading How they gain ultimate control by gaslighting
Once some sort of commitment from the target has been secured the restraints can be pulled tighter and tighter "For many people subject to coercive control, the difficulties and danger signs are not as obvious as a physical assault. Stealth and manipulation open the door for coercive control, and this is made easy because we… Continue reading Stage 3: Living with control (with text!)
Commit in haste repent forever Online dating makes manipulation easier for abusive personalities. 65% of all communication is gained from body language. If you haven't had that, you maybe missing those uncomfortable signals that something doesn't feel quite right about this person. By the time you meet in that person, other signals you may have… Continue reading Stage Two Homicide Timeline Early Relationship: the commitment whirlwind.
"Deadline July 25th 2022 BBC Continued To Commission ‘Meet The Khans’ Producer Chatterbox Media Despite String Of Bullying Complaints: Deadline Investigation" Max Goldbert 'Meet the Khans' BBC/Chatterbox Media/Stephen Spence & Joe Keech EXCLUSIVE: The BBC has continued commissioning UK production company Chatterbox Media despite discovering its owners Nav Raman and Ali Quirk had at least a dozen… Continue reading BBC ducks morality by outsourcing responsibility again!
Not all children inflict their childhood on others there is a choice Whilst there is no excuse for abuse why do (mostly) men abuse their partners? "Is there a profile of men who batter their partners? Most experts say there is no one profile of men who batter or beat women. Domestic violence crosses all… Continue reading Most people have an imperfect childhood the difference between abusive adults and everyone else is choice!
"It is not about a dynamic between two people; it is all about a controlling person." According to Jane Monckton Smith's Homicide Timeline, "The mostsignificant red flag that warns of danger ahead is that they are controlling,and have been controlling before. "...If someone has a history, not necessarily of homicide, but ofcontrolling, possessive or jealous… Continue reading Homicide Timeline Stage One: A history of control or stalking