“Stage six is a time when the escalation no longer serves its purpose, and the controlling person has changed their thinking about their strategy…
When he realised that he was not getting Donna to change her mind, Vincent’s behaviour changed. Suddenly the attempts to manipulate Donna seemed to stop and his family noticed that he appeared calmer. They did not think that this was a relaxed calmness; they described it as almost sneering…
…the controlling person starts to believe that the victim must be destroyed to reinstate their status. This is the first real and critical change where homicide may become more a probability than a possibility…
…a stage-six switch in thinking, where a decision had been made to kill when power was lost.
‘I want a divorce, Angus,’ she said to him, quietly and firmly. ‘You don’t get to make that decision,’ he said calmly.”
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